Chapter 18 of the Gospel according to Matthew teaches that believers should always seek to reconcile with their brothers and sisters if they are offended, “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother” (Matthew 18:15).  In the same manner, if a believer knows that they have offended/sinned against someone they should reach out to the person to address the issue:


     "But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever

     shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell

     fire. Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; leave there thy

     gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift." (Matthew 5:22-24)


Even if a brother or sister has not done anything to us but we know that they have offended someone else there is a precedent to in love confront them about reconciling with the person they have offended.  All believers since they are indwelt by the Holy Spirit may do this, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such a one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted” (Galatians 6:1).  Believers are to be “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye” (Colossians 3:13).  A good general life principle found in the Epistle of Philippians is “look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others” (Philippians 2:4).  This is not talking about being a nosey busybody but rather confronting others you might have a relationship with in order to bring unity and harmony to the body of Christ.

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